because you said that's optimum to me that really if you should be getting about three and a week that is your minimum you know there's been a lot of confusion since I came out and said that I recommend for my patients to have a minimum of three orgasms a week why I mean obviously but why why is it what's of the benefits of that well the benefits are numerous from stress relief from depression and anxiety being lowered it makes us nicer especially women you know and parents it's a pain reliever but for me as a physician the number-one thing is if a woman is not achieving orgasm or she doesn't have any interest in sex that can be a sign of something else going wrong such as diabetes or high blood pressure or other serious concerns so if you if you are attempting to reach that moment of your this and and it doesn't and it doesn't happen but it did before then it could be a possibility that there may be a medical issue right and normally it's it's hormones for most women you know as the age our testosterone in our estrogen levels tend to fall and that affects our libido and for some women their ability to achieve orgasm but if that you know isn't the case you it's a good idea for you to check your your blood pressure and your blood sugar at least yearly so you can follow the trend how much of achieving an orgasm for a woman depends on her mind her body or her partner finding the right partners it's about ninety percent in the woman's head a night set in the woman's ass yeah okay which is always a surprise to people because they think well he's not you know given me the right action or he's you know just not gifted in that way but for the most part a woman really needs to be mentally turned on so if she's in her head worried about what she didn't finish that day or what the kids are gonna eat tomorrow or how she looks or how she smells or how she tastes then it's gonna be much unrolled because that's kind of what women think about all the time and all of those things exactly so therefore how can you correct that because that mean there were a lot of women that said I've never had an orgasm can't do it it's not for me don't know how to it's never happened yet yeah so would you say that maybe that's because there's a lot of traffic going on in in their brain absolutely what my research has shown is that for a woman she really needs you know three kind of key ingredients one is a sense of self-acceptance you know and being fully present and mindful so if you've got this mindless chatter going on it's gonna be really hard for you so what we usually ask women to do is first kind of look at your own sort of sexual psyche do you believe that sex is meant to be pleasurable for you as a woman or is it just your duty to satisfy your partner you know like for the for example that that result that showed that some of your respondents feel guilty after orgasm that tells us a lot about a woman's right to pleasure does she believe that she deserves it or does she have to earn it and so all of those sort of things are going on in a woman's mind and that can keep her from reaching the big oh I don't you didn't want me asking this but it's any case it came out in our research Chatelier on is it true that you somebody doesn't necessarily have to touch you to give you an orgasm you can reach that place by just in your own mind yes so whoa there because that's like so what what do you think about the coolest thing is orgasm takes place in the brain so we all think it happens down there yeah orgasm takes place in the brain so as long as you have a brain and at least part of your spinal cord you can achieve orgasm without anyone even touching you so how long so if you were to start thinking whatever you think to get to that place how long would it take we're doing now and you actually that happening some women can do it in a matter of minutes so you know most people can say with direct you know clitoral stimulation with masturbation or with a vibrator that they can achieve orgasm within two minutes well studies have shown that women can think off that's what they call it thinking off that they can have these orgasms within two minutes and you know I have clients who can do this sort of Tantra core yogic breathing where they start to really get in tune with their body's energy washing machine know and their partners aren't even touching them they can achieve orgasm just through breeders you how powerful the the mind is then when it comes to these things and that's why I wrote this book and that's why I'm on this crusade to help women because when we find out that women say just like you just mentioned oh I just can't achieve orgasm so I'm just gonna fake it get it over with do my duty she's denying herself one of the greatest pleasures that we are entitled to and when you start to just write off oh I'm not going to have an orgasm it affects your relationships it affects a woman's confidence it affects of what the way a woman really 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